There is a dispute between people, almost equal to a disagreement about the need or uselessness of adding onions to a flatbread. Love or Hate Christmas. There is hardly a middle ground. Some people seem to glow with happiness as soon as they hear the first notes of a song. All I want for Christmas Mariah Carey, and the rest will be locked down until January 7th.
Of course, everyone will have their own reasons. In general, both love and hate for Christmas are usually associated with positive nostalgia or ghosts of the past. In fact, the biggest Christmas hater in literature, Mr Scrooge Chrismas storyI had this feeling because of a lonely childhood, sad Christmases, and a very unloving father. In real life, our brains are also shaped by past experiences. If we had a happy Christmas as a child, we are more likely, thanks to brain associations, to enjoy those holidays as adults. But, of course, this is not the only influencing factor.
For some people, hating Christmas has nothing to do with childhood. Current circumstances also have a lot to do with this. Even hemisphere in which we live. But let’s look at the reasons.
This is not about hating Christmas, but hating family meals.
Christmas is marked by many obligations, usually in the form food and dinners, whether with friends, colleagues or family. The first ones are usually the most relaxed. After all, we choose our friends. However, work colleagues and family members can make us feel either very happy or very uncomfortable.
According to research from the American Psychiatric Society, meeting with family members we don’t know or don’t get along with can be important. cause of stress. The question about little-known relatives would be more in line with the in-laws. But even among his blood family, sometimes there are people with whom he does not get along very well.
Constant stress can cause anxiety and even if the mood was not very good before, it could have become much worse. With all this said, family situation is one of the first things that can influence the love or hate of Christmas.
Tell me what hemisphere you live in and I’ll tell you how much you hate Christmas.
Some experts link some people’s hatred of Christmas to a phenomenon known as seasonal affective disorder (SAD). This especially happens in countries close to the poles, where winter is accompanied by especially long nights.
But in general this always happens in winter, when the nights are longer. It is believed that this happened because for some time circadian system, responsible for controlling sleep and other physiological functions in 24-hour periods, changes. Our brain interprets that it is time to sleep when the light entering the retina decreases, and that it is time for us to wake up when it increases. However, if little light reaches the eyes during waking hours, a certain lack of control over circadian rhythms occurs with symptoms such as fatigue, irritability and sadness. This is what happens late at night.
It should be noted that in Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which classifies all diseases in the field of psychology and psychiatry, it is not included as a disorder, but as a seasonal characteristic of depression. That is, people with depression may feel worse in such situations.
All this coincides with Christmas in North hemisphere. In the south, Christmas is celebrated in the middle of summer, so other factors would influence it, but not this one.
Each person’s situation is key
Christmas is a time that is usually spent with the whole family. At least that’s how we see it in the Christmas movies or advertisements we are bombarded with during this time. However, the reality is that many people spend it alone, falling short of their expectations of what Christmas should be like.
In Spain, about 5 million people live alone. Of course, many people live in such a situation because they want to have a large family outside the home with whom they can spend the holidays. But there are also individuals especially olderwho have no one to enjoy Christmas carols and sweets with.
So it makes sense that these people celebrate Christmas with much more hatred than love.
To all this we must add that there may be people who are grieving due to the death or breakup of someone who was part of their Christmas in the past. This may not be the reason we hate Christmas all the time, but it may be the reason why we approach the holidays with less enthusiasm for a while.
At the same time, psychologists recommend not to force those who claim that they hate Christmas. There is always a reason behind this hatred of Christmas. It might just be for reasons rejection of consumerism of these holidays, but also for emotional problems. Insisting that it’s logical to be happy at this time will only make you feel worse. We must accept how others experience this or any other time, even if it does not coincide with ours. If you hate Christmas, don’t be mad at those who like it. And if you like it, consider that that acquaintance you keep calling Grinch might have reasons why he’s not telling you. Plus, even if you don’t have them, they don’t matter either. That’s your decision. Respect her.
Source: Hiper Textual
