The harsh reality of orgasm: the time has come to act once and for all

About 60 % of women once pretended to be an orgasm. Only 65 % indicate that they always reach or almost always before the climax, while this happens between men 95 %. These are two clear numbers that show us that Orgasm gap This is a reality that, like many other gender gaps, is still very open, even if they are trying to believe that he was closed.

In fact, if it really had been closed, it would be Age differences. Young people will be more aware, or, perhaps, elderly people would have learned from their mistakes. However, according to a study published in 2024, an orgasmic gap He has no clear differences in age groups. It exists in all groups, and in this or another direction there is no trend. It was made with people from 18 to 100 (yes, 100) years, and there were no differences in the orgasmic gap.

Therefore, we are faced with a problem that requires you to continue to speak. It is important to continue to spread Why women have fewer orgasms than men. Because no, contrary to what many people say, This is not because of biological difficultiesThis field is just as easy to get to orgasm with the vagina, as with the penis. In fact, heterosexual women -women usually often reach orgasm through masturbation what about their partners and Lesbians They reach orgasms easier than heterosexuals. There is a template, and it is important that we see it and know how to stop it. Therefore, August 8, Women’s day of orgasmThis is a good time to spread this gender gap.

The origin of the orgasmic gap

The origin of the orgasmic gap is very clear. In the article for TalkPsychologist and sexologist Lori Mints Indicates it Only 4 % From their patients, they prefer to achieve orgasm with penetration. 96 % need Cliter stimulation. This is completely logical, since the clitoris is almost the equivalent of the penis in people with the vagina. It consists of erectile tissue and has many nerve endingsThe field is much more than the vagina. That is why the sensations are much more pleasant with the stimulation of the clitoris.

In fact, as explained Hypertual Psychologist and sexologist Laura MarcillaIn many cases, if an orgasm is achieved with the penetration of the vagina, this is because they are stimulated with it Light bulbs and internal branches of the clitoris.

When a woman gives pleasure, he knows well that stimulation of the clitoris will feel more pleasure. If it is a woman who enjoys another, also knows. And the reality is that men also have such information. The problem is that many continue to hold on to what they see in Cinema, television, books and magazinesWe see the field, hear and read continuously heterosexual sexual scenes in which an orgasm is achieved quickly, only with penetration and a sharp and scandalous way. Usually with two people who maintain relationships, of course, at the same time.

“Some are created Unreal expectations About how quickly or easy to achieve orgasm, ”says Marcillus. In addition: “Unfortunately, women have more difficulties than men to express what they like. “How are you going to communicate that you cannot achieve orgasm, like the main character of your favorite romantic novel? Can you bother your boyfriend to know that it is impossible to get to Clymax as fast as a girl last night? The choice is chosenWhen the reality is such that it is much healthier to report what is happening. If another person has a minimum of emotional empathy and intelligence, they should not be angry.

Better as a couple

Sex with stable pairs does not have to be better. Nevertheless, it is true that there are studies that indicate that only 10 % of women reach orgasm in the first sexual relations with a person, while 68 % do this with stable pairs or with which there are much more certainty. This, again, strengthens The importance of communication to stop orgasm.

In search of solutions against orgasm.

The orgasm gap can be closed, since the salary and other gender intervals can also be closed. Now, for this, it is necessary A lot of willEspecially from people who least affect the specified gap. As for the gap in the wages, which should introduce more than their part, are entrepreneurs, in the case of an orgasmic gap, the first to act in this regard are some people. Those people who reach orgasm most of the time due to penetration, which knows that deep down it will not be so pleasant for their partners as for them. Because yes, there are a lot of talk about the orgasmic break, and in the background everyone sounds to us. The problem is that We hear about her, but we do not listen.

Sexual education key

To begin with, Laura Marcillus believes that the first measure is perhaps the most important, is Sexual education. “Sexual education understood not only knowledge of anatomy, biological, physical, but also education, which includes Interpersonal relationshipsSocial skills, communication ability, refusal or the ability to assume that perhaps your partner did not use in such a way that you thought that I would like it. “You must make out all these myths. For a sexologist, this would be a great solution.

“Of course, messages that can often be seen in Basic pornWhat is due to the fact that at the same second when penetration begins, there is already an orgasm or an understanding that an orgasm should not always be very explosive, with screams or moans. “It also adds that another mistake is“ to believe that the female orgasm should be accompanied Cursed And that if there is no creaking, this is not an orgasm when they are two different phenomena. “They can occur simultaneously, but they are not synonins, and one can occur without the other.

On the other hand, Mints emphasizes in his article Talk Importance give women to find out about their bodyEspecially what they like and what not. Usually this is usually done through masturbation, and then, if necessary, apply it to relations with other people.

In short, there is an orgasmic gap, because we allow it to exist. Today we have enough information to know that Sex is not like movies. We have an option that children receive sexual education from very young. Unfortunately, many parents continue to think that this is a form of perversion, when in fact it is not only the key to reducing orgasm, but also a way of reducing sexual aggression, improving self -esteem, promoting a more healthy relationship, both sexual and sentimental …

A child who has received sexual education will become a more informed and safe adult in his relationship. Perhaps a woman who without hesitation asks what she wants, instead of pretending to be content with another or a man who knows how to give pleasure to her partner, regardless of her floor, but either disappointed if she does not receive him. Why not dream?, Also an adult who knows that There is sex outside of communication and pleasure outside orgasm. Without sexual education, we will continue to demand the need to close orgasm, but perhaps we will never achieve this.