According to Gary Chapman’s theory, each of us can express love in five different ways. These are gifts, time, compliments, services, touches. If these “love languages” of people in a couple do not match, problems may arise in the relationship.
However, scientists say this theory is wrong for various reasons.
First, Chapman’s sample was not representative. It featured “very religious, traditionally monogamous heterosexual cisgender couples.” Also, the method of determining love language in the book turned out to be strange. When people were asked to choose the most important theses from the proposed theses, they could not do it because all of them were of great importance to them.
There is no scientific confirmation that there are exactly five languages for the manifestation of love. Various studies also mention other ways people show their love. Finally, it has been proven that people do not necessarily have to have the same love language to live a happy life as a couple.
Amy Mewes, the author of the study, said that romantic relationships can actually be thought of as this metaphor. They are similar to a balanced diet, where different expressions of love are needed in different amounts and people’s needs and preferences can change over time.
Source: Ferra
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