In the new true crime from Netflix, Sweet Bobby: A Fictional Identity’s NightmareOne thing is immediately clear. The Internet is a fertile ground for impersonation and deception. But in the case of radio host Kirat Assi, it was more complex, more complex and deeper than just lies and distortion of information through platforms and instant messages. Director Rebecca North’s documentary soon moves into more complex territory. This is to tell how, for almost ten years, the victim was deceived by a member of his family circle who pretended to be Bobby Jandu, surgeon from Brighton (England).
Based on Tortoise Media’s 2021 podcast of the same name, the play explores more than just how an attacker manipulated his victim. And also in the way he isolated and mistreated her through an alleged relationship that became increasingly turbulent and violent. What begins as an online friendship soon turns into a long-distance romance that eventually includes a marriage proposal. This is without Kirat Assi and Bobby Jandu.They got to know each other outside of the platforms they both frequented.
Almost nine years later, Assi ran into the man he considered his partner. Only to discover that while Bobby Giandoo was a real man, he was not the man she had been in intense communication with for nearly a decade. This revelation revealed one of the most complex and sophisticated deceptions ever known in what is now known as som or catfishing. This is nothing more than using online profiles and personal details to deceive and benefit from false connections. The moment in which the documentary Netflix analyzes this half-heartedly and without delving into its argument.
The real story of Kirat Assi
However, the real story Sweet Bobby: A Fictional Identity’s Nightmareinvolves much more than just an online hoax. This is one of the most confusing cases ever recorded. It is also an examination of the scale, sophistication and complexity of the means used to defraud Qirat Assi. A question that the Netflix documentary does not fully explore and that the original podcast is of particular interest in. Something that allows us to understand the reason why som This lasted almost a decade.
According to the chronology of research conducted Medium turtleAssi met the alleged Bobby Giandou through Facebook in 2010. Both belonged to the Sikh community in London and had a circle of mutual acquaintances. Additionally, Jandu’s younger brother had a brief romantic relationship with Simran Bhogal, the victim’s cousin. So Kirat Assi had no idea that a man with the one who spoke almost daily could do more than what he showed.
In appearance, Jandu was a young doctor, respected among friends and an exemplary husband. While living in Kenya, he was known for his kindness, sense of humor and dedication to cardiology. For just over three years, the couple often communicated and began to share revelations. While this was happening, several people from Bobby Jandu’s circle began to frequent Kirat Assi. By the end of 2014, the victim belonged to a group of more than forty people associated with Jandu. From several of his colleagues, the doctor’s first wife, even his cousins, and even his mother. TEveryone interacted with Assi and considered her part of their community.
Romance that gets creepy
Over time, Bobby confided in Kirat that their marriage was about to end. This led to the couple growing closer and eventually becoming romantically involved after their divorce. They had not met in person before, and although she insisted on future meetings, there were always extravagant situations that got in the way. Finally, in November 2013, Jand’s relatives and friends were informed on Facebook: that he had suffered an attack in Kenya and was in a coma.
By that time, Kirat Assi interacted with more than sixty accounts of various relatives, friends and acquaintances of Jandu. They all confirmed the incident, and when his health began to fail due to his injuries, they encouraged the victim to send messages about his recovery. Two months later Kirat received news that Bobby had died due to ill health.
By that time, she knew – always through Facebook – more than fifty people from Jandu’s inner circle. Among them are his cousin Simra and the doctor who treated Jandu’s case in Kenya. Kirat obtained detailed medical reports about what happened to Jandu and had long conversations with various people close to Bobby. Which will later explain This helped him cope with the death of a man and come to terms with his loss.
Another unexpected turn in an unlikely case
Then an unprecedented turn in history occurred. Bobby reappeared alive and admitted to Kirat that he had to fake his death in order to get into the witness protection program. He also explained that he now lives in New York and for this reason he did not dare to contact her again. The version, again, was confirmed by all the friends, acquaintances and relatives whom Kirat knew. Therefore, she did not hesitate to renew the relationship. Moreover, without even knowing each other, contacts between them were limited to messages via Facebook.
What follows is a surreal spiral of situations. Every time Kirat proposed a meeting, Bobby found himself in some particularly serious situation. In addition to gunshot wounds in Kenya, he suffered a brain tumor in 2015, a stroke and even a heart attack the following year. Step by step, the intricate medical chronology was checked by Bobby’s family doctor, who was also among Kirat’s close friends. Apparently, due to poor health, by 2017 l.The relationship between them became more complicated, violent and controlling.
Bobby demanded conversations from Kirat, which sometimes lasted all night. During calls, Bobby could barely speak and communicated through whispers and guttural sounds because his throat had suffered irreparable damage during his recovery. He also demanded morning selfies and explained in detail where he had been during the day. Every time she mentioned the possibility of meeting outside the virtual world, he threatened to commit suicide or develop other serious illnesses. On the other hand, I always had an excuse not to travel to London, not to make video calls or even just not to send current photos. According to Bobby, his special legal status always required him to remain hidden. including avoiding videos, pictures or any other recordings of his life.
While the above was happening, Bobby became a father to his ex-wife and manipulated Kirat into including her in a whole new phase of his life. Increasingly desperate, under pressure and exhausted, the victim accepted the abusive relationship. The stress caused her to quit her job, seclude herself at home, and eventually distance herself from everyone around her, including her parents and other relatives. Except for his cousin Cymra, the only one in the family who managed to meet Bobby and who often acted as a link between them.
Terrifying revelation
By 2019, at the worst moment of the abusive relationship, Kirat realized that Bobby was hiding something potentially serious. Before that, all his relatives, friends and acquaintances insisted that she just needed to be patient. Especially when the situation between them became suffocating and downright cruel. Trying to understand what was happening, the victim hired a private detective. Which This led her to discover that Bobby lived in Brighton, although he insisted he was in New York.
Deciding to confront this man, Kirat went to the city. And indeed, having knocked on the door at the address indicated by the investigator, Bobby opened the door for him. But, as she immediately realized, this was not the same man with whom she had been talking for nine years. Since then the situation has become increasingly grim and complex. Moreover, this revelation was followed by the most difficult and shocking ones.
According to Tortoise Media’s investigation, Kirat always discovered that Bobby’s identity was given away by someone else. In the midst of shock, Kirat turned to his cousin Simra Bhogal, the only one who had met the supposed real Bobby. Amid pressure from the victim and threats that she would go to the police, Bhogal confessed the truth. She was behind everything that happened. ANDIn other words, he pretended to be Bobby to deceive his cousin.
A situation that eludes any calculation
However, Simra Bhogal’s manipulations, deceptions and traps did not stop at posing as Bobby Janda. Soon after, Kirat discovered that his cousin was impersonating all the relatives and friends in Bobby’s circle. This can be done by opening Facebook, Skype, and in some cases even instant messaging accounts for each character. For more than ten years, the aggressor resorted to all types of deception to deceive his victim. As much as to create an interconnected network of relationships covering all aspects of life in Kyrat.
As expected, the real Bobby had nothing to do with this scenario. And as strange as it may seem, it was thanks to his testimony – and the complaint of identity theft – that Kirat was able to achieve justice. how is he som was not yet a crime, English law had to rely on Jandu’s claim for usurpation. A precedent that allowed the victim Finally, file a private civil complaint against your attacker.
However, so far Kirat Assi has received only a private apology and financial compensation from his cousin. And all this is based on a legal assumption of harassment, misuse of private information and data protection violations. At the time of the podcast’s broadcast Medium turtleSimra Bhogal worked and held a senior position in English banking. He later retracted this when the matter became public. On the other hand, Kirat Assi is currently trying to promote the possibility of making catfishing a criminal offense in England. Something that has not had a major impact on the country at the moment.
Source: Hiper Textual
